So, my last article seemed to have attracted a bit of attention, which is always a good thing. One of my most adamant supporters has finally made a request (If I needed an editor to keep me from missing deadlines it would be this girl. She never fails to remind me that I have no posted in like totally forever. Thanks for the reminders, and fuck you I'm trying to move and keep my job so I can pay my rent. But, thank you).
Her question that she would like to see me examine, is why allow the relationship evolve, seeing as how the more you move forward, the more you move toward the end. Many people feel this way, that the best part of the relationship is the beginning when it is all knew.
So what are my viewpoints on this? Furthermore, it has been asked of me if I have been in a long term relationship. First of all yes I have been in a long term relationship. I was with someone off and on (more on than off) for over three years. I was with someone else for more than a year. I have also dated around a lot. I offer a unique viewpoint on relationships as I happen to be the two polar opposite dating types at the same time. This means, more simply, that I am very comfortable in a long term relationship, and have also thoroughly enjoyed playing the field.
So to answer the second question, why should we evolve our relationship if the beginning is the best part? Well I think we should allow our relationship to progress because it is inevitable anyways. Nobody enjoys a relationship that feels as though it is going nowhere. The speed with which it progresses of course is dictated by the level of intimacy that both people are comfortable with. Think of each of these levels of a relationship as flavours of ice cream. While it is good to eat ice cream, and the first time you taste a new flavour is incredible, you would get sick of it if it was the only flavour you could ever eat. That being said, my theory for a solid relationship is to have all flavours all the time. Just because you hit the next level, it doesn't mean you need to abandon the previous ones. Have your cake and eat it too (man I shouldn't write when I am hungry)
I believe that if you treat every date like the first date, and treat your wife like your girlfriend forever, you'll still have googly eyes for each other when you need coke bottle lenses to see them.
Thanks for the response, I hope to have more feedback from you all, and new topics. Ask me anything, I like to run my mouth!
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3 comments:
I completely agree with that. I too was in a in and out relationship for two years, nothing was more stressful then wondering if today was the day were we'd break up yet again.
I think relationship evolve because people evolve. We change, adapt, and naturally your relationship will too.
-Jenn
I think there's a difference between evolving/changing and inevitably getting more serious. I agree that relationships will have to change and adapt but why do they have to get more serious? I don't see what a long term serious "I think I love you" relationship can offer that a "I'd like that" phase can't. Other than that comfortable feeling and a lack of the "new relationship" thrill.
I have cheated and read your last post. First thing I would like to say is that there will be no coke bottle lenses, given that laser surgery is an option. Secondly, you're cool.
-The best (for tomorrow)
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